So… I kind of want to cry right now. I’ve been watching episodes of a TV show recently and among the many families is one with a child with Asberger’s Syndrome.
Max has tantrums. He has trouble adapting socially. He doesn’t understand the things a ‘normal’ child his age would. It’s really interesting to see something so close my own life played out on television. But I think it’s a good thing. It’s good for others to start to understand what life is like with a special needs child. It’s a good thing for those of us who already know to see some of our struggles looking back at us through the TV.
Anyway. I don’t know why I feel like crying when I watch those scenes with Max, except that I relate. I relate to his parents and sister. I relate to the pain, the frustration, the hurt. But as I watched the final scene of one episode, in between the tears, I had to laugh. Max and his parents sat around the table playing Go Fish. And it is just so like our family. We all play our games and have fun, but we always take time to play Go Fish with Alyssa.
Isn’t it crazy how many similarities there are between special needs kids? And how, even if “special needs” is just an actor playing out the script on-screen, we still recognize what is true of every special needs child and family. We relate… because we know what it’s like.
So let’s relate. In doing so, we’ll probably cry and laugh and it may be for no good reason. But I think it’s good for us to realize the similarities and to know that we’re not in this alone.